Saturday, September 18, 2010

The Infertile in the Room

Today I helped host a wedding shower. The bride was obnoxious and completely ungrateful, but that isn't what I want to tell you.

See, as the infertile in the room (even though I have major suspicions that I wasn't the only one) the 7.5 months pregnant lady was only a minor eye-roll. Seeing as how she is married and all and deserves to have a baby just as much as anyone else.

Everything was fine until the shower was dwindling down and then the preggo decides to enlighten the remaining 4 of us with her laundry list of complaints about pregnancy.

After about the fifth time she complained about having to go to the bathroom all the time, I said, "You know, I would live on the toilet for nine months, if it meant that I could even get pregnant and have a baby." As you can imagine that pretty much brought everything to a standstill.

You know what comes next right? "It'll happen" chorused 2 of the girls. And I responded (even surprising myself), "I'm so glad you are all-knowing and can assure me of that." I said it politely, with only a twinge of bitter. My BFF nearly rolled onto the floor laughing, she told me later it was all she could do to just sit there. Because she has heard my rant on that phrase more than once. I did apologize for it coming out so "harshly" (which it didn't) and they both said they completely understood and that they were sorry.

And I would believe it, except the preggo then followed by saying "It'll happen when it's supposed to. It hasn't happened so it must not be time yet." So wise is the woman who didn't know she was pg, not even trying, and only found out when they were about to do an x-ray and the nurse asked her if it was possible and then gave her a quick POAS test.

I'm sure she knows all about "when it's supposed to."


  1. What a complete idiot... and these are the people that reproduce.

    It makes no sense to me at all.

    I'm glad you stood up and said something! You go girl!

  2. Grr, sorry you had to deal with that! I don't like comments like that at all!

  3. You go girl!!! I'm so glad you spoke out!!! I cannot stand unappreciative, whiny pregnant women! Thank you for standing up for not only yourself, but for all of us! :)

  4. UGH! Who wants to deal with that in the midst of just trying to make it through each day?! I'm glad you were able to stick up for yourself a bit, and it helps that your BFF was around to laugh with you later. That phrase is truly awful.

    I recently had to explain to my derm -- three times in one conversation -- that because my husband has NO sperm, there is no way I can get pregnant (concerns about conflicting with an antibiotic). He reminded me that it just takes one sperm. Wow!! Did you know that?! Geesh...

    People can be so dense sometimes. I'm sorry you had to deal with that today.

  5. Ughhhh! So sorry!
    I'm so proud of you. You said exactly what you were thinking and what needed to be said.
    So unfair for her to say "when it's supposed to" How does she know? If this was case, if everyone got pregnant when they were "supposed to" our population would be a lot smaller.

  6. God I hate people sometimes. So smug. Somedays fertiles are impossible to be around.

  7. I'm glad you said something. I would never have the courage and would just slink away.

  8. Good for you for speaking your mind! Sorry you had to deal with crazy people at a baby shower.

  9. OMG I want to throttle them for you. Good for you for voicing your thoughts.

  10. Your response was awesome and so deserved! You said what most people want to say but just don't. Good for you!

  11. Sorry you had to deal with all her comments. It makes me cringe reading this...

    Great response! Glad you said something.

  12. That is so annoying! I'm glad you were able to respond though. I usually get all flustered and don't say a word and then afterward come up with a million great responses.

  13. OMG - thank you so much for your post. I hate that phrase. I hate people telling me to just wait and be patient...blah blah blah.

    I just found your blog. Thanks for the vulnerability. I haven't felt comfortable blogging about my infertility yet, but reading blogs like yours gives me courage.