Wednesday, January 20, 2010


I'm so grateful to you who commented and to those of you who are like me and a little comment-phobic, but still nodded while reading and thought, "I've been there."

To fill you in on what happened after my outburst:

My husband is concerned about the finances of it. He is perfectly ok with more cycles, he just wanted to know if there was any reason we *had* to have them back-to-back. I explained that while the stats don't really change for the first 3 IUI cycles, it does help to do them back-to-back in my non-medical opinion, because I think my body needs to be in rhythm. A rhythm it doesn't have unless medicated. And while I have 14 current Clom!d prescription refills sitting at my local Wal.greens, I don't really need to be self-medicating. Once I gave him the bottom line (a max of $1600 over the next 2 months), he agreed to just proceed.

See, I think he's worried because of ALL the stuff going on: the potential move, the potential new job that we're waiting to get the offer on, the house being for sale and then the baby-making on top of it all. And the baby-making is pretty much the only thing we control as far as timing (at least the timing of the procedures). As we all know, all of the above costs money - lots and lots of money. So I think he got a little freaked.

But we're most likely not moving and we will most likely take the house off the market. We'll be back to just having to pay for the baby-making. We decided to tighten the purse strings a little and be a touch more frugal until everything gets sorted out.

He did make one really stupid comment, that you will laugh at. He actually told me that he needed me to talk about the fertility issues/procedures/timing without bringing emotion into it. I laughed at him. Seriously? I told him that if he could tell me precisely how not to bring emotion into it, I'd be glad to do that.



  1. ah, husbands. Gotta love their cluelessness sometimes! That sounds just like something D would say about not bringing emotion into it. It's hard to put these things into logical and financial perspective sometimes when all we CAN feel is the emotional part of it! At least that is how I felt. I couldn't imagine taking a break for even a month, as you just get on the path pushing forward no matter what. Hopefully your next IUI will be the magical one!

  2. Men, God didn't create them the same as us. Frustrating really!

    I am glad that you guys are proceeding with the IUIs. It seems like it is a lot of money, but it will be well worth it when it works, and it CAN work. I personally know a gal that got pregnant with twins with IUI. They are now 2. Good luck to you!

  3. Men, can't live with them, can't live without them. Good for you for talking him into back to back cycles. I am pulling for you and praying for you girl. Good luck!

  4. I know they make the 'what to expect' books also for men, and I think we all need to write a book for the men on 'what to expect when you can't get to the expecting part.' My DH is the same way since to him it's all foreign. I have to remind myself he's not on here with a ton of support & information.

    I'm really glad that you are able to come together and get things set for the plan ahead. Sorry about the house thing, but I hope EVERYTHING will work out in the end.

    And of course major thanks for your design!